tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504041683402071507.post917482088373171916..comments2023-09-08T02:54:25.234-07:00Comments on Bitterness Barbie: The Eroticization of Cross Gender Expression Part 2: The Exotic Becomes EroticBitterness Barbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15080082175885943270noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504041683402071507.post-41283124235944241612013-12-17T08:20:13.287-08:002013-12-17T08:20:13.287-08:00Hi Christy,
Your writings are very insightful and...Hi Christy,<br /><br />Your writings are very insightful and strike a chord with me. I'm curious if you've read Jaimie Veale's "Identity-Defense Model of Gender-Variant Development" (http://www.jaimieveale.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/idmodel.pdf) which proposes a pretty compelling theory to explain the varieties of transgender identity development and incorporates the "Exotic Becomes Erotic" theory.<br /><br />I'm a 30yo autogynephile (a concept which I discovered about a month ago and shook me to the core). My female side is definitely still chained up and gagged in the dungeon of my mind, but her groans are getting louder, and I have a suspicion I'd be much happier if I let her out.<br /><br />I've been trying to go to transgender support groups in the hopes I could find some role model or peer, but I just can't connect with any of the people at these groups. I don't know if it's just the peculiarities of the type of person that these events draw, or the generation gap, or my own internalized transphobia or what, but I just don't feel we're cut from the same cloth and the groups actually discourage me rather than support me.<br /><br />I was reading one of your posts on Crossdream Life and I noticed that we both live in Portland. I thought maybe you might be a potential role model or peer or friend, and I was wondering if you might want to meet for tea or coffee sometime. If so, you can email me at<br /><br />duckducktruce (at) gmail (dot) com<br /><br />Hope you are doing well.<br /><br />Best,<br />JAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12890643414449425768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504041683402071507.post-85277315880700453552011-02-07T08:53:41.005-08:002011-02-07T08:53:41.005-08:00Hi Sarah
I had not taken the BEM inventory, but d...Hi Sarah<br /><br />I had not taken the BEM inventory, but did so this morning. Here are my scores:<br /><br />45.833 masculine points (out of 100)<br />71.93 feminine points (out of 100)<br />70 androgynous points (out of 100)Bitterness Barbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15080082175885943270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504041683402071507.post-71791515181101567052011-02-02T23:13:52.678-08:002011-02-02T23:13:52.678-08:00My memories were about wanting some of the toys th...My memories were about wanting some of the toys the girls played with. I don't imagine many boys wanted dish sets and clothes irons. Yes I even had the ironing board. <br /><br />I didn't identify with the other boys in the neighborhood. At the time I "knew" something was different, I just couldn't place my finger on it. I imagine having a sister, I would have better understood some of it.<br /><br />BTW, curious if you had taken the BEM sex role inventory, and if so what the scores were. My scores are at the post at Callie's Chronicles.<br /><br />SarahSarah Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13018597739320720216noreply@blogger.com